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Vicki Rothschild/Weight
Management ~~ A Plan For LIFE
“Life Should Be
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Good Monday morning!!! Diving right in: I was speaking with a friend late week; we
were speaking about my “work”. To make a long story short(er), he said to me,
“they don’t want to give up their food, it’s their best friend”. Well ya know I
jumped all over that one! Best friend my you know what!! It jogged my memory of
an old piece I found somewhere. Please
read it! Instead of me telling you how I answered him, it’s mostly in there.
And it’s brilliant (so not my words, but oh how it could have been).
Okay, so then he says to me (cutting to the chase here), “well
if they follow what you tell them to, they’ll lose the weight.” And I’m like,
“IF? IF? IF they follow?” That’s like that old adage that I DESPISE: “just move
more and eat less.” Well gee, that’s helpful, not. Sooo, I went onto tell him,
it’s not IF they follow. Sorry, that’s just not what this is about. I’m not
relying on IF’s. No siree! It’s about getting someone TO follow. I give them
the tools TO follow. And wow do I have and ENDLESS supply of em'. I give them the skills to follow. I give them the
knowledge, the empowerment, the push, the support, the on-going counseling,
along with the “right foods” that make it easy TO follow. Thus – they follow.
Thus – weight lost – happily, healthily, easily and PERMANENTLY. Oh there are
no IF’s (or ands or buts) I will have you – following and falling (in love with
healthy eating).
And here’s
that BRILLIANT Letter I discovered years ago, the author was listed as
“Anonymous”. Please read it through.
Spend the time. Invest in yourself!
Dear Food,
I love you so intensely, it hurts me to be away from you. You’ve been with me
through all of my good and bad times. You’re the longest relationship I’ve had.
I depend on you to help me up when I fall. Our intimate nights alone when no
one else is around are so wonderful. It’s a secret love affair that gives me
more satisfaction than I can ever remember. You are without question, my
addiction. Even when there are times that I feel frustrated at the things
you’ve done to me, I always run right back to you. My safety blanket, my rock,
my ever loving and understanding companion. You are here for me when everyone
else fails to love me in a way I need or want. I couldn’t possibly ever live my
life without you, a few days without you and I would perish. Even just a day
without you I would get lonely & weak. I hate that I feel this way about
you. It makes me so angry that I can’t just walk away and never turn back.
You’ve got me so entangled in this dysfunctional relationship. How could you do
this to me? You’re supposed to love me and maybe you do, but my love for you is
slowly killing me. I can’t live without you but I can’t live loving you the way
I do either. I know you’ve supported me; I know you’ve always been there when I
needed you. I know sometimes you were the only one around. How can I possibly
turn my back on you now? Somehow I have to find the strength. I know you want
me to explain myself. It’s just so difficult to say these words when I know
after they are said I have to walk away. With your support you’ve also brought
me shame. You’ve brought sadness and hurt into my life. You’ve made me feel so
down about who I am and what I look like. It’s gotten so bad over the past few
years that I can’t even look at myself in the mirror without thinking I’m
disgusting. I remember I used to look in mirrors passing by, now I keep my head
down. If I do happen to catch a glimpse, I run to you for comfort because I
hate myself and you do what you do best. Honestly, your best is hurting me and
I can’t take it anymore. It’s finally at the point that my disgust with myself
is way beyond the feeling I get when I’m around you. We’ve been down this road
before so many times. You comfort me when I feel down, but then after the
comforting is over I feel even worse. How is it that I let myself be
satisfied with just a few minutes of comfort when I deserve so much more ? I
deserve to feel good about myself. I deserve everything I’ve always looked for
in you but never found. I deserve the comfort without the guilt. You
give me so much guilt. You provide so much negativity in my life that I can’t
see clearly at times. When I get comfort elsewhere it never feels as good and
at the same time never hurts at much. How messed up is that ? I still, no
matter how hard I try, can’t understand how you make me feel so amazing and
then with the blink of an eye you turn on me and make me feel terrible. I’m
done, I can’t do this tug of war anymore with you.
I’m so tired
of all the anger & pain. I’m done shedding all these tears over how you
make me feel. I’m so confused; how you do the things you do? You’re ruthless. I
wish it didn’t have to be this way, but it’s for my own good. All these years I
spent looking to you for things you couldn’t give me has done awful things to
my mental and physical health. I must be strong. I know that no matter how much
I beg you, you’ll never leave my side. You’ll be everywhere I am and there is
not a single thing I can do about that. My only choice is to co-exist and to be
civil. Since I know that you’ll always be there watching and waiting for me to
have a weak moment, I’ll have to be stronger than I’ve been before. It’s ok,
you stay there & watch me. I’ll forget you, I’ll forget those times you
were there for me, I’ll forget those times you made me laugh, I’ll forget every
fake happy memory I had with you. What I won’t forget is how awful
you have made me feel every time I thought I could let you in. Now I know,
as long as I’m strong, you can be in my life, but not the way you were before.
It can never be that way again. You destroy too much of me when I bring you
close. I have no choice but to accept you’ll always be waiting for me to fall
again but no matter how bad I might feel like I want you, I’m done. I will
never fall victim to your powerful, deceitful ways again. You provide more harm
than good, how many times do I need to learn that lesson? I love you & I probably always will but
it’s over. Lesson learned. Goodbye.
*One quick(ish) word from me, she ended the letter :
“I love you and I probably always will” – ummm, no you won’t. The “love affair” (with "those" foods) will be over! I will have you falling in love with the foods that don’t leave you
feeling DISGUSTED with yourself, but DELIGHTED. You will have a wonderful
relationship with food and discover that yes, food is MEANT to be your best
friend!! But a true, true best friend, one that has your back. 24/7/365!
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